My Queen, my woman, I love you.
But you make me promise you things I cannot execute.
You corner me to a wall and I say things to make you smile for a while,
Then I fail to deliver and make you wear a lasting frown.
Your friends tell you about a trip to Dubai,
You ask me if I can take you to show you that I love you.
You push me to say I will take you in December, I agree.
December comes and I don’t have the money then you claim that I lied.
I tell you about my business and how it will make more money in the next five years.
You tell me five years is a long time to wait, I should get serious and start buying a house in two years.
I agree, two years down the line, I can’t, because my plan is five years.
You make me promise that I will see you at six o’clock,
I try to explain to you that I can’t see you that early because of a deadline at work,
You throw a tantrum accusing me of not loving you,
Come six o’clock, I can’t show up, not because I don’t want to, but because I have a responsibility.
You push me to agree to a big wedding for us,
Knowing very well we don’t have the money.
I agree, only for our wedding plans to cause conflicts between us,
Because I agreed to give you an expensive wedding that I cannot follow through.
You ask me to come to church with you for the first service,
I ask if we can go for the second service instead,
So that I rest after my night duty.
You accuse me of backsliding because I was too tired to hear the alarm.
You push me to say I will stop a habit,
To make you happy I agree to it.
Then when I relapse to it, I find it difficult to run to you to help me and support me,
Because I know you will be mad at me instead of encouraging me back to my feet.
You ask if I can see you and spend time with you,
At a time when I am organising a relative’s funeral.
I cancel out on you and request if we can make time later,
Instead of understanding the matter at hand and consoling me, you get angry.
I am a man but I am so scared of an angry you,
And more scared to lose you.
This makes me say things I cannot deliver,
Or things I cannot deliver as quickly as you want me to.
This shouldn’t be the case, I should be honest with you.
I feel under pressure because when I say not now,
You quickly conclude I am saying never,
Then you deduce I don’t love you.
You are setting me up to failure in your eyes,
By making me feel I have to tell you what you want to hear.
Can’t we have honest conversations? Can’t we hear each other out?
Can’t you hear my reasons as to why some things I won’t do your way,
Or why I won’t do them when you want?
Can’t I have a difference of opinion and still love you?
Can’t I be a man who is honest with you, not one who tells you what you want to hear?
My Queen, I am going no where.
You have to trust me.
You have to stop armtwisting me to give you what I can’t,
And see me for the man I am.
I want to have honest conversations with you,
Without fear of you bringing drama.
Instead of it always being your way,
Why can’t we find our way through understanding?
DEAR LADIES, ARE YOU SETTING UP YOUR MAN FOR FAILURE?

Nice read. Better understanding.
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Nice piece
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